I thought I would share my formula for the most successful and the least embarrassing way to do this.
#1, stay ONE step ahead of the kids. Children should know about these topics soon before entering the stages where they either experience them or know kids that do. I believe girls should know about puberty and changes by age 10 and boys before middle school. All kids should be made aware of sex, drugs/alcohol (the basic facts) the summer before middle school. However, be careful not to approach these topics too early. Kids can only understand complex subjects at their developmental/experiential level.
#2, use literature. Some authors have spent years perfecting their approach. Isn't that better than your "off-the cuff" attempt? Obviously, read what you are giving to them beforehand and be available for questions after.
#3, consider joining forces with another adult and telling your children together. This works best when the other child is their best friend, cousin, same/similar-aged sibling, or close family friend.
#4, use proper vocabulary, straight and simple details, and most of all, a little humor to lighten the mood.
Children who have the facts presented in a simple and direct manner feel more in control of what is happening to them and in their lives. Most of all, it sets the tone that they have parents who are open to discussing difficult topics and are approachable for complicated and touchy subjects as they enter the strange and weird stage of adolescence.
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